SgInstaBabes Answers: Who Should Pay For A Date?

In a time where gender equality campaigns are being championed by both genders alike, Matthew Hussey, self-professed love guru for women worldwide and author of the New York Times Bestseller “Get The Guy” weighed in on the debate in a video that went viral almost instantly. Here’s the video I’m talking about.

However, are his points valid in the Singaporean context? Should the modern man adhere to archaic adages and stick to paying the bill, or have times changed? We decided to ask some of Singapore’s hottest babes and dudes to get to the bottom of it and answer all of your burning questions. Read on to find out what your dream guy and girl looks for in a date. Who knows? You may just be theirs in the future!

However, are his points valid in the Singaporean context? Should the modern man adhere to archaic adages and stick to paying the bill, or have times changed? We decided to ask some of Singapore’s hottest babes and dudes to get to the bottom of it and answer all of your burning questions. Read on to find out what your dream guy and girl looks for in a date. Who knows? You may just be theirs in the future!

JADE @DJJADERASIF

 

Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

Yes! But I don’t agree with it.

Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

The person who is more “jio” should pay, regardless of gender.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

Because you shouldn’t have to pay for someone you don’t really want to meet, especially if it’s an obligatory date.

PRISCILIA @PRISCILIAW

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

Yes, I’ve seen the video. My stand is that women should pay for their own share! Women always demand gender equality and yet expect guys to pay on a date. That isn’t fair! Let’s say your boyfriend is a student and you are a student as well, shouldn’t you both go Dutch?

Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

Well to me, I feel that on the very first date it is polite, well mannered, and attractive for a guy to at least offer to pay on the FIRST date. Subsequently, both of us should go Dutch. Sometimes it’s nice if girls offer to pay as well! It shows the man that you’re an independent woman with a good heart and not someone selfish who just takes advantage of him.

 Qn 3: Why would you say so?

For me, I’ve always paid for my own tab because I feel that it’s a kind gesture and I don’t want to depend on my man for money. I know a lot of women who wants their man to pay for everything, but for me, it just shows that she doesn’t care about him and is just in it for free things. We as women should always be fair to men when we demand gender equality and not take advantage of them. It’s a ridiculous rule that a man has to pay for all his dates.

LULU @PLEASELOVELULU

 

Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

Yup, I agree with what the speaker said about not having double standards. There’s nothing wrong with what the speaker said, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

The guy.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

If my date is going to be a “marriage prospect”, I would want someone who is able to financially provide for me anyway. If the date is going to be a “dead end”, then, of course, I would want my time compensated. Similarly, if my date finds me a “dead end”, he shouldn’t have asked me out.

DANIAL @DANNYSWANEPOEL

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

I feel he made some very strong points. It was a total eye opener. Many people saw it in his perspective and after he explained himself, it did make a lot of sense. I am sure this will change people’s perceptions on who should pay.

 Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

I would normally pick up the tab. However, if the woman doesn’t even offer to pay, that would be the last time I ever see her. All a guy wants is the woman to offer; a simple gesture just to show that they had a good time and that the relationship is equal. Also, if they insist on paying, it is a plus point for me because it portrays independence which is a huge turn on; a woman that does not need a man, but wants him.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

I always believe in being a perfect gentleman. Chivalry isn’t dead. I will always stand aside to allow a lady to go first, hold the door open for her, give up my seat to her, walk on the outside of the pavement to protect the her from mud or water thrown up by passing vehicles, hold the chair at the dining table for her to sit down, and even stand up if she leaves to go to the loo.

VIVIAN @VIVIANTAN__

 

Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

No, but I have my opinions on the topic.

 Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

Well, it depends on two things: who initiated the date, and what level in the relationship we have progressed to. Let’s say it was initiated by the guy, then ideally he should be the one who picks up the tab. But let’s say I asked him out (and yes, I would ask a guy out for sure), then I’d insist on paying. So that’s if it’s the first date. As (and if) the relationship progresses, then there’s no hard and fast rule. The guy can pay in certain instances and the girl in others. There shouldn’t be gender differences.

 Qn 3: Why would you say so?

I feel that in today’s time, guys and girls are equal. Both genders should be treated the same.

GERALD @GERALDPNG

Pushing each other to the limits, we were learning quicker. 📷: @william82sg

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

I think that the video is quite inspiring and teaches all of us who should pay on the first date.

Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

If I were on a date, I would say that both of us should take turns paying for the bill, because I believe in fairness and equality.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

Guys shouldn’t spoil their girlfriends or dates too much. We aren’t ATM machines! I know being a gentleman is really important when it comes to dating but I think that it’s completely unfair for the guy to pay all the time. We don’t earn much and Singapore is all about bills, transportation, accommodation, and food. Maybe when it comes to an anniversary date, the guy should pay for the bill. However, his partner should offer to pay for the bill too when it comes to his special occasion!

SHERRILL @SHERRILLX3

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

I just watched the video. Actually, I agreed with whatever the speaker said. If you’re serious about dating a guy and it’s been a couple of months, it doesn’t have to always be the guy paying. If it’s within your ability, you should be taking turns paying for each other.

 Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

It depends on how long we’ve been dating for. If it’s the first date, going Dutch isn’t ideal in my point of view. It’s much more courteous for the guy to pick up the tab. But perhaps after we’ve decided to be serious and have been dating for a few months, it’s more reasonable to take turns paying the tab. It will be fairer.

 Qn 3: Why would you say so?

If the couple is serious, it would be a double standard if guys are always the ones picking up the tab because it makes it seem as though the relationship is based on money when that really shouldn’t be that case. If the woman is earning during this period, she should offer to pay, especially since she has the ability to. And it should be like what the speaker said: proportionate to how much you earn.

DORCAS @DORCASHEHE

 

Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

I’ve seen the first minute of it. Typical content; I’ve heard it all before.

 Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

Depends on the situation, there’s no certain rule that I follow.

 Qn 3: Why would you say so?

Ideally, on the first date, I’d expect the guy to pay if he was the one who asked me out. Obviously, if I was the one who suggested the date and didn’t cover it, then it’d be quite a CB move. LOL. That’s kind of a given. The rare occasions where I insist on paying my half is when I really don’t want a second date or anything to do with him. Hahaha!

Let’s say it’s like few months into an almost serious relationship then I’d offer to split the cost because it’s quite ridiculous to remain calculative when you’re sharing everything else, right?

WEE KIAT @FABODYLOUS

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

Yes, I have. I agree with Matthew that in a relationship, both parties should be responsible for the cost of dating, according to their capabilities.

Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

To be honest, most of the time when I’m on a date, it is sponsored by the restaurant. Hahaha.

Otherwise, if it were the first date or we’re just casually dating, I will give my date the bill and say, “pay however much you want to pay. I’ll settle the rest”.

If we’ve been going out for awhile, then we’d probably know each other’s earning ability and we’ll split the bill accordingly.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

If it’s the first date, I wouldn’t know my date’s earning ability and willingness to pay. So I’ll let her decide.

If I’m in a serious relationship, the goal of the date (and the entire relationship) should be to maximize pleasure for both of us. If she’s always asking me to bring her to expensive places which I can’t afford and making me pay for everything, I probably wouldn’t be in a relationship with her in the first place. Then again, I’m the kind of guy who loves spoiling my girl. But if I feel that she’s ungrateful and just taking advantage of me, then she can just go and love herself.

FRANCHETTE @FRANLORRAINE_ 

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Qn 1: Have you seen the video? What do you think about it?

Yes, I have and I agree with the guy! I believe that when you go on a date, it doesn’t mean the guy has to always pay for the bill. The girl should take the initiative to offer to pay too.

 Qn 2: If you were on a date, who would ideally pick up the tab?

If I were on a date, I would actually take the initiative to pay when the bill comes.

Qn 3: Why would you say so?

I believe it’s only respectful to do so. I don’t want to seem like I’m a thick-skinned girl who doesn’t even want to offer to pay for the meal. If he insists on paying for it, then that’s okay because at least I tried to pay for my share. The alternative solution is going dutch so that makes it completely fair.

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